Having recently moved from Orange County, California, the land of men who are more pretty than me and speak in "toad"-ally, I have had my fill of the superficial. Coming to Texas, I had high hopes for true Southern gentlemen, but thus far, I have been quite disappointed.
I recently signed up for an online dating service and have been continuously surprised by the obsession with a woman's appearance. I believe that Hollywood and the media have played a large part in disrupting a man's view of how women "should" look. Long gone are the days when meat on your bones was a status symbol or women with a figure like Marilyn Monroe were considered beautiful. Today, it appears that most men are just looking for stick-thin model types.
After speaking with a guy online, texting and eventually talking on the phone with a suitor from this website, I received a shocking request. After scheduling our date, he comments, "Based on your photos, you tend to have fluctuations in your weight, and I see on your profile that your body type is listed as curvy. And I love curvy, really I do. Assuming we are talking about the Jennifer Lopez or Kim Kardashian curvy." For one of the first times, I was truly speechless. He then proceeded to ask me to go take a picture of myself in a swimsuit so he could determine if my curves would be acceptable.
That's when I realized, frogs live in the shallow water.
Friday, July 29, 2011
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Frog Tales
From early childhood, young girls have been ingrained with the idea of finding their "prince charming" and living "happily ever after." We all know the familiar story - the princess kisses the frog that magically turns into her prince. As many times as I've read the stories and watched the movies (the theme that continues into the "romantic comedies" of adulthood), no one ever told me how many frogs there would be along the way.
Throughout my adolescent and adult life, I've found myself kissing many frogs - holding onto the hope that maybe, just maybe, he would be my prince charming. Thus far, I've come to realize that if it looks like a frog, talks to you in "ribbit" (or might as well with all the mixed signals or lack of communication) and is slimy, rest assured, he is a frog. Despite the many warning signs they give us along the way, I've learned through my own experience as well as that of my girlfriends, that women continue to date "frogs" in hopes of helping them find their inner prince. In the words of He's Just Not That Into You author Greg Behrendt, "Don't date potential!"
This blog was designed for women to share their stories in the hopes that it would serve as therapy for those tired of and honestly in awe of the dating disasters; as an example to men of what NOT to do; and to our mothers & married friends who just can't understand why we are still single.
Every girl deserves her "happily ever after," but until prince charming comes, these are our frog tales.
Throughout my adolescent and adult life, I've found myself kissing many frogs - holding onto the hope that maybe, just maybe, he would be my prince charming. Thus far, I've come to realize that if it looks like a frog, talks to you in "ribbit" (or might as well with all the mixed signals or lack of communication) and is slimy, rest assured, he is a frog. Despite the many warning signs they give us along the way, I've learned through my own experience as well as that of my girlfriends, that women continue to date "frogs" in hopes of helping them find their inner prince. In the words of He's Just Not That Into You author Greg Behrendt, "Don't date potential!"
This blog was designed for women to share their stories in the hopes that it would serve as therapy for those tired of and honestly in awe of the dating disasters; as an example to men of what NOT to do; and to our mothers & married friends who just can't understand why we are still single.
Every girl deserves her "happily ever after," but until prince charming comes, these are our frog tales.
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